Dear Janice, I know to keep it brief. I’m 52 years old.

I am in the golf club and walking club.

I stay on my own but have started to get friendly with a lovely lady.

I’ve been in relationships before but always found a way to break up because about once a week I have a fetish I wish I didn’t have, but it is irresistible.

I have a lot of outfits I like to wear to dress up with which are unusual, to say the least.

I hate myself afterwards, but then do it again and again.

I’m a straight guy, but I know women won’t like it and I understand fully, however I would like to stop.

Have you any advice please? Anon.

Dear Anon, well, to be perfectly honest, if this is what you like to do and have done it for a long time, you are unlikely to stop at 52 years of age. 

You are right though; many women would not be able to accept your behaviour (I have read the full extent of your fetish) and would likely end a relationship if they discovered what you do in your spare time.

That said, it is your life to do with what you wish, so either be up front with the lady you have already met (and any future ones) and take your chances, or the alternative is that you find a like-minded partner who would be open to your fetishes. Good luck.

 

Dear Janice, I am going through the menopause and my husband treats it like it’s one big joke.  If I turn the heating down when I burn up, he turns it up again.

I know I can be irrationally irritable, and I apologise, but he laughs and says I have turned into a crabbit old woman (which infuriates me even more).

I have been like this for over a year, but instead of showing me any sympathy, he asks how many more years he has got to put up with it!

I’m worn down by the way I feel, and with my husband too, but I don’t know how to move on from this situation. Maureen.

Dear Maureen, it might be an idea to lock your husband in a very hot sauna fully clothed for an hour and see how his temperament is when he is let out.

Honestly, he is a dinosaur.

This isn’t a ‘situation’. Your body is changing dramatically because you have come to the end of your reproductive years.

Hot flushes and night sweats are just a few of the miserable symptoms, but there are lots of things which could help.

Hormone Replacement Therapy can reverse symptoms in a short space of time, but only your GP will know if this is an option for you.

As for your Neanderthal husband, there are good books on Amazon which will give him a better understanding of what’s happening to you. I recommend he reads one.

 

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