Dear Janice, arriving home from his boys’ golf trip to Turkey, my partner text to say he couldn’t wait to show me my surprise, and as I had hinted lots about a fake designer bag I really wanted, I was excited.    

But when I opened the door and he opened his mouth, I laughed hysterically because he had these enormous gleaming white false teeth.  They were so hilarious, I laughed until I cried.  

He wasn’t laughing though, and soon I discovered they weren’t joke teeth but in fact the real reason he went to Turkey!  

Every time he opens his mouth my eyes are drawn to them like magnets. I took some Insta pictures in a nightclub, but all I could see was his teeth!  

He’s upset that I hate them, and I’m upset because I hate them, and also because he lied about his trip.    

So how can things change? Tracey.  

Dear Tracey, I can only imagine the shock when the penny dropped that his dazzling gnashers were for real!  

But this isn’t the only issue.  

You weren’t consulted. I think rather than a run-of-the-mill fake designer bag, he reckoned these new choppers would be an even bigger surprise. (He wasn’t wrong!)  

So how do you live with a facial feature you hate?  

Over time his titanium white smile will gradually fade, as will the initial trauma of your surprise.  

Tracey, these dental procedures seem to be a growing trend, so chances are, your partner’s Bobby Dazzlers will become the norm and you’ll wonder what all the drama was about.  

Self-inflicted or not, if you love him and he’s yours for keeps, then you need to accept him and his teeth.  

But for now, hold back on the Insta photos, wear some shades, and make the most of Halloween!  

 

Dear Janice, I feel so bitter and angry all the time.  

I endured years of misery due to my husband philandering until I finally ended it.  

He isn’t one bit remorseful and him and everyone else have moved on like nothing happened.    

But for me, the moment I open my eyes in the morning I am right back there in the middle of my miserable life.  

How can I move on? Debbie.  

Dear Debbie, imagine you are in a tunnel with only two doors. The door behind you, if opened will lead to a past life of hurt and betrayal. Would you open it?    

Doesn’t it sound mad to keep returning to a place of such sadness?  

Visualise firmly shutting that door for the very last time, lock the giant padlock on it and throw away the key.  

Now the only way out is to open the door ahead which leads to new beginnings, surrounded by people who love and care for you.  

Making peace with your past is the only hope you have of creating a happy future.  

Sounds simple? With practice, it really can be. Good luck.  

 

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